I'm 14 and I'm an introvert. Probably, the most strong example of this psychological phenomena. I've got no friends, I totally depend on the other's opinion, I dress tastelessly, I've got acne. I'm fat and I study a lot. Wait, I am a nerd introvert. This is even worse.

Now I'm 20 and, even if I haven't reached a lot of objectives, haven't inventet a wheel or discovered a new continent, things has changed. I've got a lot of friends and a small, but precious amount of more close ones. I don't give a damn about other's opinion. I dress whatever the hell I want and I do it good. I take care of my skin and body, and I self-improve a lot. I'm no more an introvert. Neither an extrover. I'm a human being.

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The Internet of overloaded with psychological tests than promise to make you discover your real self thanks to a couple of stupid questions. Extroverts sounds just like a compliment; Introverts sounds like condemnation. But how come the internet know your personality? Aren't these tests sound a bit...ehm, stupid? Ovbiously, they will list you hundreds of advantages of being an introvert, but let's face it: in every job offer, in every community they'll prefer "sociable and sympathetic people", and you believe you're not like this and you just keeps staying behind the scenes looking at the life passing by you.

I think, the reason of these changes in character is more than evident: fear. If you're shy and talk a little, you're not an introvert, you are just scared of being judged, critisized, and you think nobody needs your opinion. If you're too funny, sociable and active, you're insecure and afraid of showing your real self, so now you're just hiding behind this "perfectly bright" mask. As you could deduce, I do not believe in the distinctions between introverts and extroverts. I believe that we're all equal, we're on the same level with others so we shouldn't hide our real personality or be afraid of being judges. In both cases, you're missing the real life, the real emotions and moments.

So just relax and be yourself. Don't be afraid of being too weak sometimes, or being too strong, of having your strong opinion that's too different from other's or having nothing to say and hide yourself behind the mask. We're human beings, we're equal and free. Do not forget about it.

Let's face it - we all have a secret super plan in our heads. Fat people want to lose weight, office planktons want to move to Thailand and teens want to learn karate. The only problem is that all these plans are usually remain just plans. There're always some different circumstances and life events that constantly push these tasks towards for the future. There is only one way to break this "tradition" - is to take action today!

In this post I'd like to introduce you some tips that will probably help you to get up from the couch and start doing something with your life. Probably there's nothing new or genial in it, just tome basic rules everybody knows. But does everybody apply them?

This is a favorite reason of the postponement of your grandiose plans. "I'll start working on programming when I'll have my days off free", "when it becomes warmer outside, I'll go running" "I'll start travelling when I earn more money" - is it familiar to you?

The truth of life lies in the fact that the ideal conditions for the big start will never arrive. It's just a psychological ploy for justifying their fears and indecision. When your 'long-awaited' condition arrives, you'll always find another one, more difficult obstacle. So, please note that if there's a perfect day to start, then it is today.

We can assess risks, analyze, ask the opinion of experts and weigh all the "pros" and "cons" for eternity. But the fact is that nobody is able to predict the future. It happens that the most crazy idea suddenly "shoot" and meticulous and accurate business plans are sinking.

Before you try your idea in practice, nobody in the world is not be able to predict its fate. And we are talking not only about the business or art, this applies to all the aspects of our lives. In the end, imagine that you will have to write a biography for posterity. You will be proud of your dreams or actions?

Yes, it is true, only in real life, the "cause-effect" connections are so complicated that you can never predict them in your plans. Often, doing even a small step forward your can radically change your life. You start your business in one area, and quite unexpectedly, it turns out that its by-products begins to bring you a basic income. You write a quick note to your blog, and suddenly it gets catched the eye of an entrepreneur who offers you a job. You simply start going to a gym, and meet the love of your life.

Predict all the possible consequences of your actions is quite impossible. Actually, you can, but only in one case - if you do nothing. Then, nothing happens. Sounds quite boring, doesn't it?

There is nothing worse than uncertainty. There is nothing more destructive than unmade actions. Your inner voice will always keep saying you: "If only you talked to that girl..." "Do you remember how you wanted to quit your job?", "Do you remember your never started project? Look and others did it! ". It spoils the mood, causing stress and depression.

If you at least make an attempt to do what  scheduled, then you will immediately feel better psychologically, regardless of the result of an action. First of all because you will get the confidence that your life is under your control and you are doing exactly what is outlined.

Nothing happened? Well, shit happens. Even a negative result is much better than your undone dreams. Anyway, it's a great reason to turn the page and start a new project.

So what is the day today? I think, this is the best day to start! And what do you think?

New Year is knocking on our doors. 5 days more - and we will open our doors to him. I bet, for everyone of us the New Year is the day, which means the beginning of a new life, drawing up new plans and purposes, a fresh start and an opportunity to change and correct. Even though I'm a type of person who's convinced that we don't have to wait for the 1st of January to start something new or to promise ourselves to improve something; I think that every new minute, every new day, every rise of the sun gives us this kind of possibility. But still, I'm waiting impatiently for the beginning of new year, like for the sort of the motivation. When the chimes strikes 12, we enter into the new year - a year of Green Wooden Sheep, according to the Chinese horoscope. I don't actually believe that the new year should be welcomed wearing some special clothes, ideal for the year of Green Sheep, or prepare special dishes in order to give yourself a good and prosper year. However, there's the moral need to prepare for the new year, give yourself a number of promises and never give up. I made a short list of how to prepare for the new year and that promise to myself - I'll also apply this list on me, so let's make the new year the best in our lives together :)

1. Buy a daily-planner

There're a lot of advantages of having a small daily-planner every time with you. You will never forget about your affairs, you'll know precisely what you gotta buy in a supermarket (and save yourself from buying unnecessary things). Also you can note some thoughts that come to your mind during the day, inspiring quotes or sources, or just draw something while you're bored. I know that nowadays we all have our smartphones to do i, but let's be honest - no smartphone will ever replace a real handwriting, real emotions that you feel while note something in your daily-planner. Plus, the scientific fact is that when someone writes down something personally (not types in the smartphone) - he remembers it better. 

2. Make a list of plans for the New Year.

It's always good to be sure about what you're waiting from the coming year, what places are you gonna visit or what stuff to buy.

3. Make a photo diary.

Starting from the 1st of January, take one photo every day and post it somewhere, for example on Tumblr. It doesn't matter if the photo will be taken with your phone or with your tablet, or with the most expensive camera. It will help you to find good and priceless things around you every day.

4. Complain less.

Just make a challenge.  Try to live two weeks without complaining. No 'i can't do it', no 'this girl look makes me loose my temper', no 'i hate metro in the morning'. No no no. Every time you're about to complain, just shut up. And notice how your life would change. If you'll like it, continue not to complain during a month and  then, during all your life.

5. Improve your skills.

Wanna learn a new language? Or maybe how to skate? Or how to draw manga? It's never too late to learn something new or improve your old skills. New year - new start.

6. Take care of your health.

In order to feel and look better, you should pay attention on what you eat, how often do you do a workout, and how do you think.

7. Read more.

I won't be the first who admit that reading develops your brain. You have more topics to discuss about with others, you speak and write more correct. Even if you don't used to like reading, you may find a book that will be interesting for you. Classic literature, biographies of great people, psychology books... Find what you like and read, read, read.

8. Travel.

Even if you don't have enough money to go to the USA or Australia, you could travel even to the city next to yours, you can explore countries and lands walking on foot. The benefits are infinite! Better health, you may learn more about people's characters, their costumes, their habits. It's always amazing to discover new things, new places and new people.

9. Do whatever you want.

YOLO. You only live once, dude. Obviously, within reasonable limits, but you gotta do whatever you want, say about what you feel, surround yourself with people who brings you up and NEVER regret about anything.

10. Dream and DO!

Dream, plan and do. No comments need. Just hustle to make your dreams come true in the new year cause the impossible is possible.

P.S.... and do not forget to sum up the 2014 in order to now repeat old mistakes, leave bad people in the passing year, and literally start a new life.

I wear:

H&M hat // Tally Weijl bad // Zara pullover // H&M pants // Nero Giardini heels // Stroili silver necklace

Hello everyone! So some time ago one of my friends started asking me questions about how I manage to look good, how I was able to lose weight, how I manage to "be such pretty" and so on. First of all, I just want to say that every girl is unique, and also has a unique approach to each person. It's impossible to distinguish the universal advice for all girls in the world how to be the most memorable and vivid. But in any case, there are some simple rules (which I started to stick to) that will help you stand out from the crowd.

1. Take care of yourself.

Needless to say that every girl musts look after her hands, hair and nails. If you do not do it yet - quickly fix the situation! The first thing that attracts one person's attention - is always appearance. A girl with nibbling fingernails, peeling nail polish and dirty hair will never make a positive impression on others. A girl who looks good - always feels confident and beautiful, and therefore every people thinks so about her!

2. Pay attention to your style and make up.